IWSG & Family Matters

Hi, all you insecure writers. Secure writers too. Also readers. Without you,where would writers be? Sher here, and this is my monthly post for the Insecure Writers Support Group  started by Alex J. Cavanaugh, whose superhuman powers of being everywhere and doing everything make the rest of us feel a little more insecure. His helping us fix that makes us hero worshippers into the bargain. So what’s making me insecure this month?

You thought I was going to say time, right? Well, that too. Um, that always. But this month I’m concerned with family as well. That’s where most writers get their support. But I’m still trying to reconcile the fact that some of my family will never think my writing or editing are as important as their own pursuits and goals. Not even now that I’m making money as a professional editor. I like it. A lot. I love being a meter maid for rhyming picture books. I love helping short stories and novels take shape and become books readers don’t want to put down. I guess it stems from my love of reading. SF. Fantasy. Dr. Seuss type rhyme. All faves. Make those things middle grade or YA, and so much the better.
Back to family. I feel like I’ve just started writing even though I’ve done it since my youngest son was in middle school and got hit by a truck. He’s now nineteen and fine, by the way. I really did just start editing professionally this year after years of critique groups. I don’t want to quit either for an extended period of time, not for six months or a year, and especially not to retire in a few years. I don’t want to go where I can’t use internet for even a month. So there, I’ve said it in public. I want to keep working because I enjoy it!

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Indie author-friendly freelance editor, children's book blogger for picture books through YA, kid lit, SF/fantasy lover with special fondness for middle grade, pun-loving SCBWI member, meter-maid for poetry and rhyming picture books.


  1. Glad you’re having fun, which after all, is the best part of writing.

    Writing and editing can be a lonely endeavor sometimes. That’s why we depend so much upon other writers for support.

    • You’re right about the lonely part and needing other writers for support, Ken. Strangely, I never feel lonely either writing or editing until somebody comes in the room and gives me the evil eye or wants me to drop everything to do something else. While physically alone, I’m not mentally alone. I’m in whatever world is on the page, imagining all the things that take place there. That’s why I enjoy it so much.

      That attraction is why I walk while reading and stand up while editing or writing. Physical activity makes me stop when my body is tired in the rare cases where I don’t have to stop to eat, take care of other business, chores, or family stuff.

  2. Sher,

    First, I just want to say that I’m glad your son is alright after what he’d endured. That must’ve been scary for you and your family.

    Fortunately, I have a wonderful husband who is supportive of my fiction writing ambitions. But I totally hear what you’re saying about not always getting the support you need from others. I’ve had my fiction writing ambitions cut down, ridiculed, and regarded before as being merely a last priority hobby, and according to those who feel that way, I should be able to easily put these ambitions on the back burner. Eye roll!

    In order to stay focused, I work hard not to internalize negative energy from others. I believe my publishing dreams can become a reality if I continue to work at it. And, Sher, I imagine you feel the same way too. So just keep at it!

    • Thanks, Cynthia. It was scary. I’m always glad to hear from others whose spouses support their writing. And I do feel the same. I’ve got a wonderful critique group that took almost a year to gather, and between them, you, and other writers, I have enough positive energy to keep at it. Thanks so much to adding to my positive support!

  3. Alex DOES make one feel like an underachiever, huh?! I’m sorry that you have family members who don’t think your work is as hard or important as their is. I imagine a lot of people have that same issue.

    Shannon at The Warrior Muse

  4. I don’t want to make anyone feel bad!
    If you love what you do, then you are way ahead of so many people out there. Both writing and editing are part of your creative passions – double bonus. A lot of people go to a job because they have to while indulging in hobbies because they enjoy them – maybe your family just doesn’t understand how the two could be combined.

  5. It is interesting that there are so many people that see writing as a hobby, not a job (since it can be both). I am lucky to have the support of many of the people close to me. Still, there are others that think writing and blogging are only fun things to do in my spare time. I know that I enjoy writing and blogging, but they are still work and have meaning. πŸ™‚

    Glad you are getting to do what you love Sher and I am glad your son’s accident turned out okay! πŸ™‚

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